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Sixteen Years Later: What Has Changed About Porn Addiction — and What Hasn’t.
Explore how pornography addiction and compulsive sexual behavior have evolved over sixteen years—and why shame fails as an agent of change. A veteran addiction therapist shares insights on breaking the cycle through genuine psychological understanding rather than behavior policing.
Declan Fitzpatrick
Sep 12 min read


Why Boundaries Feel So Hard (Even When You Know You Need Them).
Knowing your boundaries isn’t the hard part. Holding them is. This piece looks at why saying no can feel risky, guilt-inducing, and emotion
Declan Fitzpatrick
Jan 183 min read


Surviving Christmas With Family.
Christmas has a way of pulling us back
into roles we thought we’d outgrown.
Declan Fitzpatrick
Dec 23, 20252 min read


Addiction Isn’t About Willpower: How Shame Keeps You Stuck.
Shame keeps people trapped in addiction. This post explains why willpower isn’t the answer—and what truly supports recovery.
Declan Fitzpatrick
Nov 25, 20253 min read


Sex Addiction and Intimacy Avoidance: Understanding the Connection
For many men, women, and couples navigating relationship problems in Ireland, sex addiction is often misunderstood as simply a matter of high libido or poor self-control. In reality, compulsive sexual behaviors frequently serve as a defense mechanism against emotional closeness—a pattern closely tied to intimacy avoidance and an avoidant attachment style. Understanding how intimacy avoidance drives compulsive behavior is one of the most critical steps in breaking the cycle, r
Declan Fitzpatrick
May 10, 20242 min read
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